Happy
My Beloved Friend,
It’s been some time since we first crossed paths, and I’ve noticed that many of our conversations have drifted toward heaviness—into the realms of sorrow, shadow, and silence. That’s the nature of healing, isn’t it? It unfolds in the soil of brokenness. Darkness, unfortunately, is part of the journey.
But every so often, a pause comes—a breath of light. A moment that reminds us what grace actually feels like. So today, let’s turn toward that light together, just for a moment.
What’s the happiest day you can remember?
Some might say it was the day they got married.
Or the day they held their child for the first time.
Maybe it was finally saving up for their first home.
Graduating college as the first in their family, breaking through the walls of long-standing oppression.
Hearing the words, “The cancer is gone.”
Moments like these—undeniably joyful. But have you ever stopped to ask why?
If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent much of your life confusing joy with accomplishment. You’ve believed that achievement equals worth, that success brings attention, and that attention feels like love. So you chased joy by climbing ladders built by other people.
But here’s the truth: none of those “happiest days” have anything to do with money, fame, or approval. The common thread between them is far more profound—they bring you into the present.
The happiest moments in your life are the ones that silence the noise.
The moments where the past no longer haunts you, and the future no longer frightens you.
The days when you stop performing and start existing.
When no one’s watching—or maybe they are, but you don’t care.
When you're not striving to be someone else, because—for that brief and sacred second—peace found you exactly as you are.
That’s happiness. When you accept that God is with you in the now, and He’s never leaving.
Peace.
Presence.
Grace.
Stillness.
Growth.
Laughter.
Living without fear.
So this week, I want to offer you a gentle challenge: choose to be happy.
It won’t come naturally at first. But pause anyway.
When your thoughts begin to spiral, look at your feet.
When you speak to someone, meet their eyes. Compliment them.
Recognize the light you carry—even if it flickers.
Affirm your own strength.
Make meaning where there was none before.
And above all, remember this: happiness has nothing to do with the standards of this world.
Which means you don’t have to wait for it.
You can choose it—today.
With you always,
